The Association has concluded a system of memorials with the School which has a practical benefit to the School and a spiritual one for the family of the Association Member.
The Association is offering Members the chance to dedicate a new tree at the School as a Memorial to a passed Member.
The aim is to make the event as memorable as possible and the size of the facility means that the family can invite many friends and associates in complete confidence, so we have devised a package which gives the family privacy and allows them to enjoy the surroundings, while the School is free to function normally.
Gather in the main front entrance to the School and when the party is together, move to a brief dedication ceremony next to a newly planted tree along the driveway to the School. It is not planned to make this religious, but individual families can tailor to their needs. We would recommend a couple of people making brief statements and then inviting guests to say a few words before photographs of family and friends laying soil around the base of the tree.
This is followed by tea in the school (initially in the Old Library) at which a page in the Association’s Remembrance Book will be opened.
The Remembrance book will feature a double sided resume of the Member’s life with a photograph all to the family’s requirement.
The package costs £500 for a party up to 20 people. Larger parties can be accommodated by agreement.
Please contact the Honorary Secretary to discuss further.
It was a cold and blustery afternoon on June 13th 2013, when 22 friends and family of
Kevin Frank Acreman, (Athens 1968-1975), gathered at the school to dedicate a tree
in his memory. As reported in the Association’s 2012 magazine Kevin passed away in
2011, aged 54, after a valiant battle with a rare type of lung cancer. It was decided
that a Tree Dedication was the most suitable option for donating funds to the school in
memory of Kevin, from his wife Allison and the Acreman Family.
Allison started the proceedings by introducing everyone, including how each of them
knew Kevin, some of the paths by which were surprisingly obscure. I was the first guest
speaker invited to recall past times with Kevin, and somewhat relieved that my San
Diego flight and dash from Heathrow allowed me to arrive on time! I was delighted to
be able to bring laughter to the crowd by recounting adventures from Kevin’s school
days and beyond. However one of the stories that caused the most amusement was by
our second speaker and friend Mark Garius. He recalled the dinner to celebrate his 21st
birthday, when Kevin, on demonstrating the “correct” way to drink a shot of flaming
Sambuca, set his own moustache on fire.
Each guest was then invited to place a shovel of earth at the base of the tree. The
outdoor portion of the ceremony concluded with everyone singing along to the Monty
Python version of “Always look on the bright side of life”, Kevin’s favorite song.
The assembled crowd was then invited to take a respite from the wind and reconvene in
the school’s staff room (old library) for a wonderful spread of tea, coffee, sandwiches and
cake. There were eight Old Southendians in attendance including Kevin’s father, Jeff
Acreman; brother, Paul Acreman and school friends Mark Garius, Andrew Laderman
and Paul Lecorgne. Other old boys present included friends Erny Obrart and Lawrence
Laderman and association representative, Clive Shiret who kindly helped so much with
We then moved on to Priory Park to toast Kevin’s bench and then to the Cricketers
Pub, much changed but fondly remembered as an old drinking haunt. We ended with a
splendid dinner at the Westcliff Hotel.
Everyone agreed that the ceremony was a very fitting tribute to Kevin and an uplifting
celebration of his life. I would encourage anyone looking for a suitable recognition for
an old boy who is no longer with us, to consider a tree dedication and help donate much
needed funds to the school. It is also the perfect opportunity for family and scattered
friends to come together and have a jolly good catch up and reminisce about old times.
I know we certainly did.
Andrew Laderman (Athens, 1968–75)
Protecting the future
For many of us Southend High School for Boys shaped our future and prepared us for the next step in life. As part of the Old Southendian Association's plan of support for the School, we offer all Members an opportunity to personally invest in the School’s future at the forefront of local education.
It will cost you nothing today, but remembering Southend High School for Boys in your Will is a wonderful way to ensure your support and commitment into the future.
The Legacy Committee will meet to agree grant making as per the terms of an individual’s specific bequest and / or the overall aims of the Association to play a full part in future School projects.
To ensure the best possible tax advantage and therefore maximise the legacy, the Association is proposing a legacy account connected to a charity to administer the application of funds.
There are a number of ways to write a Will depending upon your intent:
Pecuniary Will: fixed sum of money, a property or other specific item.
A Bequest in Kind: a gift of something specific that you own such as shares in a company, a book collection, a house or land.
Residuary Will: the residue of your estate after specific bequests to family and friends. This may be in the form of a percentage of your estate and may not need updating unlike a pecuniary Will where you have bequested a fixed sum. You may wish to allocate a percentage of your estate to more than one charity.
When you have decided upon the type of legacy you intend to leave, please contact your solicitor. The Association advises you seek guidance from your own legal advisor regarding the nature and terms of your bequest in the context of estate and tax planning and obligations you may have to your family and others.